The Danger of Being a Do-er

The Danger of Being a Do-er Are you a do-er? Someone who likes getting things done, achieving goals, and being busy? And when someone makes a good suggestion or asks you to take on a task, do you like to jump on it and get going right away? My husband observed that about me last week, and boy was I annoyed (which is a sure sign he’s right!). Instead, I fancied myself to be a strategic thinker. But on reflection, my behavior is definitely do-er, through and through. Not only do I get a sense of accomplishment from getting things done, it’s even joyful for me. But somehow, I saw it as a negative. I guess we always want the things we don’t have. And as Groucho Marx said, “I don’t want to be a member of any club that would have me as a member”. My husband went on to explain that it’s great that I’m a do-er. The world needs people who get things done rather than only talk about it without taking action. While I know he’s right about that too, I’m also aware of the downsides of being a do-er. In my experience, there are at least three dangers for us do-ers. Busy doing the wrong things The first is that I like to be busy doing things. But are they the right things? Am I expending a lot of energy splashing around but not getting to the other side of the pool? Or worse yet, running really fast but in the wrong direction? One of the CEOs in my Idea Enterprise group advises people to adopt the “ready, fire, aim” approach rather than “ready, aim, aim” and never taking action. But we do-ers are already on the “ready, fire, aim” course. The problem is, you can get pretty far down the road before you wake up one day and wonder how you got here, and whether it was worth it. Do-ers need to guard against being like moles who dig away 247 and find themselves at the center of the earth rather than going across the continent as intended. True, sometimes you can’t know if something was worth it until you’ve done it. But still it’s useful to check in to see if you’re in the right zip code during the journey. It’s good to make sure you’re directionally correct, and not wait a decade or two before evaluating. The stress of “what’s next?” The second danger is stress and anxiety. It’s nerve wracking when you’re not sure of what to do next, especially when you’re worried whether you’re doing the right things. And when opportunities come up that aren’t on your list of things to do, it’s stressful having to figure out on the spot whether to drop everything and take on that new project, or stick to the original one. A life of regret And this leads to the third danger, which is having a busy life doing what others have put on your plate, then looking back and regretting how you’ve spent your time and energy. In a recent interview with The New York Times, David Letterman talks about looking back at his career as a hyper successful talk show host and wonders, at the age of 69, whether that was enough. He seems to conclude that it wasn’t, saying, I’m a little embarrassed that, for 33 years, it was the laser focus of my life It took a lot of energy, and it probably would have been better expended elsewhere. Now it just seems like, really, that’s what you did? The way forward for do-ers If you’re a do-er too (or know someone who is), then I want to share a great way forward. It’s called having a game plan. Create your Game Plan What I mean by this is a written plan that goes beyond just your daily “to do” list. I’ve recently put mine together based on one I’ve used successfully with my clients. It starts with your vision of a successful life, then links back to interim milestones you need to reach for your vision to be true, and then identifies a few priorities for the next 90 days along with the associated specific action items. Anything that doesn’t fit with the 90-day priorities goes into a separate “not now” list. Refer to the Game Plan The benefit of that game plan is to help you decide what to do now versus later versus not at all. That’s why it’s important to have it in writing and in a place where you can refer to it regularly. For me, having that written guide has been essential, as I’ve had several new proposals come my way in the last month. Historically, I would say “yes” to all of them because they’re all great projects. Then I would suffer because my efforts would be spread across too many things, many of which had nothing to do with the most important things I want to accomplish. Now I have a document on my desk that I can refer to to ensure I'm making the right decisions on what to say “yes” to and what to turn down. Or at least say, “not now”. Thanks to referring to my game plan, I’ve discovered that two of the new proposals don’t deliver on either of my top priorities for the next 90 days. As a result, I’ve put them onto the “not now” list and given an answer swiftly to the proposers. I’m sure this will go a long way toward preserving my relationships with them as well. Your game plan helps you create a really useful to do list that represents your most important priorities. It helps you make conscious choices so you know why you’re doing some things and not other things. All you have to do is refer to it. Refresh it regularly For me, this one-page game plan is a living document that I refresh regularly. I recommend that you do the same. As things change, it’s important to amend the document. And when the 90 days are almost up, it’s time to review what you want to prioritize for the next 90 days. As I’ve become clearer on my priorities, I’ve moved more into the “not now” category so I can actually accomplish the few most important ones. For do-ers, this “not now” category is a life saver. Otherwise, it would be all too easy to get distracted and go off on a tangent that makes you miss the main point. It’s like those cooking competitions where a chef creates the perfect dessert, but neglects to have the main course ready at the buzzer. Going forward When you have your game plan, you can go forth with confidence knowing that you’re working on the right things. Over time, you will look back and feel proud that you’ve accomplished what matters most to you. You will live a no regrets life. What more can we ask? So if you’re a do-er, schedule time to put together your game plan so you can stay on purpose. And if you know and care about someone who is a do-er, show them this blog post so they can enjoy a wonderful no regrets life too! Leave a comment and let me know your next steps for creating or executing on your game plan.

What Im Honoring Now (or, Why I Didnt Write My Dear Future Me Letter this year)

What Im Honoring Now (or, Why I Didnt Write My Dear Future Me Letter this year) if you change nothing by mobijo Here I am, January 1st at 8:53pm, procrastinating. Today has looked different from the New Years Days past, mostly because Luke I spent the vast majority of the day driving home from the loveliest of visits with our friends their kids, and by the time we got home we were wiped wiped wiped (yes, 3 wipes are entirely accurate and necessary). I gave myself time to sit on the couch, read the paper, watch Bobs Burgers (which always solicits audible Yay!s from me.I need to pay attention to what else solicits audible Yay!s.), eat some delivery, and then.there it loomed my Dear Future Me letter.   My tradition. My sacred time. My.procrastination? I answered emails. I went on Facebook. I read my blog comments. All the while asking myself why I was avoiding it. The fact of the matter is: I dont wanna face it. I think its gonna upset me, which seems ridiculous because if I wrote one for last year a mere 6 weeks after being diagnosed with boob cancer, and going into what I knew would be, oh, just the worst year ever pretty much what the heck is stopping me now? Luke and I joked around that 2013 is going to be a good year because the bar is set really low, and its funny because its true. But because Im really quick now to not say Im done with my surgeries! or Its all behind me! and because of some other, more personal stuff Im not ready yet to talk about here I dont think 2013 is going to be easy.  I still feel the fighter in me, and she thinks shes gonna still need to carry those gloves around with her wherever she goes. Also? Staying true to my 2013 word, and being so, so committed this year in really and truly learning the lesson that busy does not equal successful, the thought of writing down all that happens to me in 2013 seems to play into that. I mean, even my 2012 By The Month postI dont want to have to see all my accomplishments or all Ive went through to breathe easier and cut myself some slack. I mean, its ridiculous. I know I do enough, I know I am enough, I know Ill get to where I yearn to be on a professional and monetary levelbut in the intention to allow myself to be, the Dear Future Me letter seems to not be what I want to honor this year. My birthday is January 14th and Ill be in Jamaica on vacation then, and I have a feeling that the letter might come to me organically then, an intention, a playful exercise, the sacred space and time Im used to it giving me. But until then, Im holding off. Its not where Im at now or where I want to be, and Ill no longer play into either of those things. Im feeling myself changing. *******

Include Relevant Coursework and Work History When Developing Your Resume

Include Relevant Coursework and Work History When Developing Your ResumeWriting a resume is more than simply putting your name and job description onto the page. In order to ensure that you're writing a resume that's completely relevant to the position you're applying for, it's important to have relevant coursework and work experience. Taking the time to include relevant experience can be very difficult, and many people don't even think about what they've done for their current position.The importance of including relevant experience with your resume is one of the key areas that you need to focus on when developing your resume. One of the problems with a resume is that it focuses more on you than what you do for a living. Instead of focusing on what you're capable of doing for your current position, you'll want to focus on what you've already accomplished and the things that you can do for the position you're applying for.There are several reasons why you should include relevant cour sework and work history when developing your resume. First of all, by including this information on your resume, you'll be able to get the best chances of landing the job you're applying for. This can lead to you receiving multiple interviews, which will help you in the long run.One thing that a person can do to get the most out of their resume and personal statement is to take the time to research the employer's company. Don't just go with the first person that you come across because the employer may not be the best fit for you. Take the time to look at other employment information and see if there's any information that can help you in making a decision on who to hire.There are a number of online resume services that you can use, but they may not offer the benefits that hiring a professional service will offer. Hiring a resume service allows you to be able to create and customize a resume, and includes a service of helping you with any questions that you have.If you want to learn more about creating a resume, you can visit a resume writing service. By using a resume writing service, you will have more opportunities to hone in on the skills that you have and to include a resume that has the exact information that you're looking for.If you're interested in creating a resume that reflects what you are, then it's vital that you focus on the relevant coursework and work history. By making sure that you're including the information on your resume that you're looking for, you will be able to land the position that you're applying for.

How Much Money Do NFL Cheerleaders Make

How Much Money Do NFL Cheerleaders Make It’s not just the players and coaches of the New England Patriots and Philadelphia Eagles who will be representing their teams this Sunday at the 2018 Super Bowl. Cheerleaders for the Patriots and Eagles have also made the journey out to Minneapolis and will be performing inside U.S. Bank Stadium on Super Bowl Sunday. Who are these women? And how much money do NFL cheerleaders make? Why have some cheerleaders been filing lawsuits against their teams? How do you even become a pro cheerleader in the NFL or NBA first place? There’s probably a lot that sports fans don’t know about the lives and careers of professional cheerleaders. Here are some of the surprising aspects of being a cheerleaderâ€"and why many of the stereotypes and assumptions about cheerleaders are dead wrong. Pro cheerleading is super strict and demanding. An NFL cheerleader’s schedule varies, but most can expect to work eight hours per week for rehearsals (plus additional practice time for rookies) and a full eight-hour day at the stadium for home games on Sundays (Or sometimes Monday nights, or even on holidays like Thanksgiving or Christmas). Regular special appearances at community outreach, charity, and corporate events are required as well. “I really felt like I had two full-time jobs during the season,” said Tiffany Monroe, a Philadelphia Eagles cheerleader from 2006 to 2014, who now works as a physical education teacher in Somers Point, N.J. “And our season never really ended. We got a little bit of a break in February.” One former NBA cheerleader said she often worked 30 to 40 hours per week, once rehearsals, workouts, games, and special appearances were added up. Many cheerleaders are not paid by the hour either, but with a set fee for each game or appearance, and many complain about not being compensated at all for practices or travel time. Former NFL cheerleaders claim that members of the squad were sometimes benched for gaining weight during the season. They could also be fined for wearing the wrong outfit to practices. Other rules might include being forbidden to drink, smoke, curse, or chew gum in public, and bans on hanging out or dating NFL players. One team even required that all cheerleaders have straight hair. It’s not supposed to be a full-time job. Despite the demands of cheerleading, NFL teams stress that it is not a full-time job. In fact, cheerleaders are often required to have other jobs or be students in college. (“Yes, a mother is considered a full-time job!” one team notes in its list of cheerleader requirements.) The pay is minimal. NFL teams are super secretive about how much cheerleaders get paid. We reached out to the New England Patriots, Philadelphia Eagles, and several other teams, and all either didn’t respond or refused to give any details about cheerleader wages. If a team states anything publicly about the issue, it’s generally something vague and unhelpful like what’s on the Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders site: “There is a pay schedule for rehearsals, home football games, promo appearances shows.” Their reluctance to discuss the issue could be because they’re scared of being sued. In recent years, a number of lawsuits have been filed alleging that teams broke the law by paying sub-minimum-wages to cheerleaders. (The results of these suits have varied, with one NFL team agreeing to a $1.25 million settlement with former cheerleaders, one claim thrown out of court, and one team, the Buffalo Bills, dropping its cheerleaders entirely.) Or it could be that teams are keeping quiet about cheerleader pay because the wages are so embarrassingly low. A lawsuit filed on the behalf of one former San Francisco 49ers cheerleader said that she earned a total of $1,250 per season, which worked out to roughly $2.75 per hour. One anonymous NFL cheerleader wrote in Cosmopolitan that she was paid $3,000 during the 2006 season, but after adding up non-reimbursed expenses for things like makeup and stylist appointments, she netted only $300. In the aftermath of multiple lawsuits and tons of bad PR, NFL teams seem to be paying cheerleaders better lately, and yes, that includes payment for most practices and appearances. Nowadays, NFL cheerleaders earn somewhere between $75 to $150 per game, and might make as much as $50 an hour for special corporate appearances. San Diego Chargers cheerleaders had been getting paid a flat $75 per game, but a California law that went into effect in 2016 mandated that they be paid for all their work at least at the state minimum wage of $10 per hour. Generally speaking, it is unusual for professional cheerleaders to earn more than a few thousand dollars per season, and a typical NFL cheerleader probably averages around $10 or less per hour over the course of a season. Meanwhile, the average NFL player’s annual salary is over $2 million, according to Forbes, and the NFL generates about $14 billion in revenues per year lately, up from $8 billion in 2010. Cheerleaders even have to pay to audition. Every year, hundreds of women try out with the hopes of being selected as one of the two or three dozen selected as cheerleaders for an NFL team. The would-be cheerleaders must first cough up some cash to be considered for the gig. To audition for the Atlanta Falcons’ cheerleading squad, for example, there is a $35 feeâ€"cash or money order only (no checks). The Indianapolis Colts charge $75 to each woman auditioning. View this post on Instagram Six states in six days! Today’s adventure will be in Providence, Rhode Island. We can’t wait to see everyone there! #NotDone A post shared by Patriots Cheerleaders (@patriotscheerleaders) on Jan 7, 2018 at 6:40am PST There are other costs related to auditions too, including hair, makeup, apparel, and tanning appointments. To increase the odds of making the team, applicants are encouraged to sign up for audition prep classes that cost roughly $25 to $75. Highlights of these prep classes might be posted online for fans to enjoy. The audition process can take up to a full week, meaning that applicants might have to miss school or work before even making the team. The Miami Dolphins Cheerleaders 2018 auditions, for example, stretch from April 16 to 22, and include interviews, photo shoots, choreography rehearsals, and a final audition open to the public inside Hard Rock Stadium. They don’t do it for the money. Most pro cheerleaders say that their teams provide ample warning that the commitment required is extreme, and that the pay might be less than waitressing or an entry-level retail job. So why are so many eager to be cheerleaders anyway? “I didn’t do it for the money, and I don’t think anybody does,” said Monroe, the former Eagles cheerleader, noting that her compensation was “fair” because she never considered it a full-time job. “It’s more about doing it for the love of dance, or the love of football or maybe modeling.” View this post on Instagram #EaglesCheer was thrilled to be present for the NFL’s million dollar donation to the Wounded Warrior Project. A post shared by Eagles Cheerleaders (@eaglescheerleaders) on Jan 31, 2018 at 11:28am PST In addition to the glamor and excitement of performing in front of tens of thousands of people, cheerleading brings with it opportunities for travelâ€"perhaps to the Super Bowl, or exotic beach locations for photo shoots, or to visit the troops in the Middle East. Among the other benefits of cheerleading, at the pro and amateur levels alike, are improved discipline and health, plus the development of skills like leadership, time management, and public speaking. Getting to work and build relationships with other ambitious, top-notch cheerleaders is another perk. “It’s not the stereotype of the dumb blonde cheerleader,” said Monroe. “They’re smart, they’re intelligent, they’re driven, motivated women. I’ve met so many women that I’m still friends with to this day.” They pursue fascinating careers outside cheerleading. Cheerleaders for the Super Bowl-contending Patriots and Eagles include nurses, teachers, accountants, physician assistants, physical therapists, engineers, and a Harvard grad student. One member of this year’s Eagles squad is even a town councilwoman in New Jersey. Darlene Cavalier, a former NBA cheerleader who runs the site ScienceCheerleader.com, reported that a total of 30 Super Bowl cheerleadersâ€"15 apiece for the Patriots and Eaglesâ€"are pursuing college majors or already working jobs in STEM (science, tech, engineering, math). “Their day jobs highlight the remarkable talent and intelligence of cheerleaders” in the NFL and NBA, Cavalier said.

Strange Solution to Your Job Search Problem - Work It Daily

Strange Solution to Your Job Search Problem - Work It Daily Just like you, I used to suffer from chronic job search. The constant look for work and repeated rejection were miserable. I would pour my energy into a cover letter and resume, only to never hear a word from an employer. Then, I’d call in desperation to find out the job was already filled. On the rare occasion I got an interview, I was sure I nailed it. Then I’d find out they picked someone else. It was just miserable. And, I really feel for anyone else putting up with chronic job search. But, you know what? It doesn’t have to be this way. Job Search Solution You see, one day while I was at a networking event, I had a kind of weird idea about how to solve my chronic job search problem. I decided to scrap the “traditional” job search and start looking for work in a whole new way. The first thing I did was stop looking at job postings! Then, I told myself I would never spend hours wasting my time on any other unproductive, reactive, demoralizing job search techniques again. I vowed to stop being a helpless employee seeking a big, strong employer to take care of me. Instead, I decided to become a business-of-one. And as the owner of my business, I committed to finding the most effective and time-efficient way to market my business to employers. So, I tried it to see what would happen. And, much to my surprise... it worked! In fact, it worked so quickly I almost thought it was a fluke. But, it wasn’t a fluke. It DOES work. And, I believe it can eliminate your chronic job search problem, too. But hurry. Right now this job search program is priced low. That won’t be the case forever. Use the button below to learn more. SECRET REVEALED ? Image Credit: Shutterstock Have you joined our career growth club?Join Us Today!

6 Ways to Deal With Your Narcissistic Boss

6 Ways to Deal With Your Narcissistic anfhrer Narcissism, or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, is almost as hard to deal with in the workplace as it is infamily orintimate relationships. The most difficult situation is when your babo is a narcissist, because not only are you forced into close contact with your babo every day, but you are dependent on them for your income.When your boss is unpredictable, self-centered, and easily upset, you might develop something akin to aPTSD response when you go into work each day. You are terrified of being insulted, shamed in front of coworkers, overlooked for opportunities, or even fired. Fortunately, though, there are ways to deal with your narcissistic boss that may allow you to survive and even thrive at work.1. Moderate Your ExpectationsYour boss might not care if you are sick and will not remember your wedding is in June. Nor will he/she be sorry for calling you at 9 p.m. on a Friday night. Dont keep expecting them to have boundaries or re asonable demands. This strategy doesnt mean you have to comply with irrational requests. If you recognize and accept that irrational requests will continue to be made, however, youll end up feeling less stressed and angry.2. Treat Your Boss How They Want to Be Treated (Within Reason)This tactic doesnt mean running to get them a cup of coffee every time they asks, but take careful note of how your boss represents themselves to you and to others. If, for example, your boss considers themself a high-ranking person, dont suggest that a meeting be set up at Starbucks. Propose a high-end meeting place.The mora you pretend to see your boss for who they try to be, the easier things will go for you. Be sure you dont genuinely drink the Kool Aid, though.3. Remember the Details of Their Personal LifeMost coworkers dont expect you to know the names of their children, but a narcissistic boss will never forgive you if you dont remember little Susies name and that she is really into tennis. If yo ur memory isnt great, write some notes on a document so you can remember the details.4. Accept ResponsibilityDont accuse your boss of failing to do something or of doing anything wrong. Rather than saying, You didnt tell me you wanted that presentation by today, say, Im sorry, I thought it was due Tuesday. Although you may thinkowning mistakes will give your boss mora ammunition to later criticize your performance, it is much better than coming off as defensive. Narcissists will rarely admit they are wrong, so do not try explicitly or implicitly to make your boss recognize their own error.5. Dont Complain to Coworkers, Unless They Are Close Personal FriendsNarcissists maintain power by being alternately very nice and very mean. The same coworker that grumbled to you about your boss narcissism on Monday may rat you out if the boss treats him to lunch on Tuesday. It may be tempting, but dont gossip about your boss. Save your venting for friends, family, or atherapist.6. Look Up Alte rnate JobsThesetips may only help you for so long, depending on the level of toxicity in the situation. You dont have to remain in the position youre in, and going over your boss head to complain might have bad consequences. Certainly, if there is outright harassment or abuse going on, report it. But if your main issue is with your boss narcissistic personality, that isnt going to change anytime soon. If you cant or dont want to deal with it long term, it is only logical to explore other potential opportunities in your job area.Hopefully some of these points apply to your situation. Remember, your mantra needs to be Accept that your boss wont change, and make your life as easy as you can. Letting a narcissistic boss ruin your day or your life isnt fair to youThis article originally appeared on Talkspace.

The Hidden Truth on Hr Resume Examples Exposed

The Hidden Truth on Hr Resume Examples Exposed Hiring managers have a tendency to make preconceived notlageions about candidates that might not be in your favor. HR professionals spend plenty of time in conflict conditions. A great way to construct your CV is to first brainstorm all the accomplishments you need to include. Resumes may be used for a number of reasons but most often theyre utilized to secure new employment. The absolute most hard step here is to determine which resume format is best for you. Each resume format was made to boost your odds to find the job in 2018. You can also see hr templates. Employing a resume template is getting an acceptable and smart practice for numerous reasons. The Unexposed Secret of Hr Resume Examples When youre working at your existing job you arent stressed, seems like everything goes smooth and with no troubles. If you need a job in america or Canada, odds are theyll request a resume. Tons of job seekers even dont understand wh ere to begin. A lot of people who have to compose a resume while applying for their very first job have hesitations since they arent certain what information to include and what things to lead off with. There are various types of resumes that serve your strengths. Make it simple to find out what an excellent philanthropisch Resources manager youre. Human Resources Professionals have to be able to implement human resources policies and procedures that encourage the betterment of the business. There are a number of work in the subject of human resources (HR).